Does everyone hate me?

have you ever had that thought? life can really suck sometimes and I have been thinking about how we navigate through that-especially in the world of social media where everyone has the opportunity to speak negative to us or make us doubt ourselves. I feel like we are taught to just let people’s negative words wash right through us, right? be the bigger person. you’re better than they are. forget the haters. so much easier said than done because when its you that is getting the hate, when its you that has been hurt by someone, when its you being attacked, it is a different feeling. I feel so often like I am the only one who handles things the way I do. the only one who simps for people who couldn’t care less about me. the only one who continues to do for others even though literally no one does it for me. ugh. its such an awful feeling. it makes me feel embarrassed and ashamed and just like hateful towards myself. I spend so much time thinking to myself “why am I like this?” “why can’t I just let these people go?” “why can’t I just ignore the hateful words?”. its a cycle. and it sucks.

so what do we do when things like this come up or happen to us? what do we do when we see those hateful comments or words? what do we do when people hurt us or leave us or take advantage of us? I don’t know! the end! haha. no i’m kidding. I mean its not like I have all the answers-at all but I am trying. all we can do is keep pushing. recognize our feelings, give ourselves grace, and focus on ourselves. don’t ignore your feelings or feel badly for having them. all feelings are valid and important to recognize and understand. we’re human. we have feelings. the important thing is is how we talk to ourselves. man, this is a hard one for me. speak kindly to yourself. feel your feelings and celebrate them for what they are. but here’s the thing-focus on you! focus on your goals, your ambitions, your life. no one else is going to do that for you. focus on you. you can do it. I don’t know if this is helpful for anyone or if I just ranted about nothing. 😂

bottom line is, you got this. i’ve got this. I love you and i’m proud of you.